“Pure
love and suspicion cannot dwell together: at the door where the latter enters,
the former makes its exit.” ~
Alexandre Dumas
Did a
fleeting shred of doubt cross your mind when you called your spouse and didn’t
get an answer? Do you get edgy and suspicious when your partner's mobile is
switched off?
A love
relationship stands on a foundation of love, understanding and trust. Being
suspicious of your partner can destroy loving, beautiful relationships. Suspicion,
born out of insecurities and lack of trust can prove fatal for any love
relationship or marriage.
“I've
learned that it takes years to build up trust, and it only takes suspicion, not
proof, to destroy it.”
- Anonymous
Stop being sneaky
Frequently
calling your partner, just to keep a tab or what he or she is doing or where he
is going can drive anyone up the wall. Or searching your partner's shirt
pockets, sniffing their clothes for any unfamiliar perfume or going through your
spouse' phone book or mails and other such sneaky habits can lead to strife in
a marriage relationship.
When the suspicion bug bites, you can even end up
reading too much into how someone shakes hands, hugs or exchange greetings with
your partner in public functions and jumping to conclusions.
What do you
think all this leads to? Just think for a while, does being suspicious solve
any problem? Suspicion is a malaise that can kill any relationship. It can make
a partner who is sincere and loyal find it difficult to tolerate an unhealthy
atmosphere of suspicion.
You may end
your relationship based purely on your self-imagined suspicions but keep in
mind once you are gripped by a disease called suspicion, it will affect your
future relationships as well.
If you have
doubts on your partner better is to confront him/her. The best advice for relationship for a healthy married life is to talk to your partner and have an
honest discussion.
Share your doubts without blaming or pointing fingers at
your spouse. Whether you have doubts about your partner having an extra-marital
affair, or doing drugs or flirting with his/her colleagues; the best remedy is
to talk.
Wisdom for
love: Sit with your partner and tell him/her your feelings. This will make your
partner feel loved if you confide in him and clear out any doubts and
misunderstandings as well.
As Samuel
Johnson once said, "Suspicion is most often useless pain." Why you
should go through this mental trauma when it is your hands to create a
beautiful relationship?
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